Allena Gabosch

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I have a personal mission statement. To bring joy to sexuality and to make a difference in the world.  Making a difference in the world is one of the most important aspects of my life. How do I do that?  One of the ways is by writing and sharing my adventures. 

**Curious about the fire?  Scroll down for the story.

What am I writing?
   Navigating Polyamory and Monogamy —a guide to healthy conscious relationships.

Why am I writing it?
  Well, after almost 50 years of relationships, I think I've finally figured some things out.  I'm a relationship coach, sex educator and activist and want to share what I've learned and created with as many people as possible. 

Why am I here?  I've been working on several books this last year and I've finally realized that in order to finish this particular book, I need help. I am one of those people who work best with deadlines and I'm crappy at giving myself deadlines. This is where all of you come in. As patron's you will keep me on my toes; making sure that I stay focused and write regularly.  And you will get to see the book as it's being created and also help me with areas that I need help.

Who am I?  I'm a kinky cis-gendered, sapiosexual, polyamorous switch and consider myself extremely blessed  with many amazing and loving people in my “polycule”.  I am a frequent speaker on many sexuality related subjects at colleges and conferences around the US and Canada, with an emphasis on Sexuality, Relationships, BDSM and Polyamory.  I'm one of the founders of both the Center and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture.  I have been active in the sex positive movement practically from its inception; producing educational and social events for the sex-positive community since 1990.  I am a frequent guest on local and national radio and television as an expert on sexuality and have been in numerous documentaries. I've been quoted in many articles on-line and even once in People Magazine, thanks to the popularity of the 50 Shades of Grey.

My Sex Positive Blog is

**The Fire:
Several years ago the Center for Sex Positive Culture used to produce a yearly camp-out called Paradise.  One year our event producers invited a couple who did firewalks to our event.  The fire you see at the top of the page is that first year's fire.  This was only a few years after surviving breast cancer and I needed something to affirm my life.  So, after some soul searching and loving encouragement from friends, I decided to do the walk.  I was terrified and almost backed out several times.  Then one of my friends told me that she had been burned in a fire when she was younger and the she was going to walk to reclaim her power. And I that is when I committed to the firewalk.

After the fire burned down to coals, the walk began.  We lined up and started to approach the burning coals.  The heat from the coals was intense (around 1000 degrees ) and my heart felt like it was going to fly out of my chest.  The drums were playing and I was surrounded by dozens of people who loved me and I took the first step.  And the next.  And the next.  And suddenly I was standing on the grass.  I was higher than a kite and crying and laughing and it was truly one of the most profound experiences I've ever done.  If I can walk on fire I can do anything.

There's a lot more to my life and as you get to know me I'll share it with you.

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This means that I do not have to find additional work and can spend my time writing, coaching and creating sex positive education.

When I reach this goal I will pick a patron at random for a half hour coaching session each month.
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