Esther Lemmens

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About Esther Lemmens

Hi there, and welcome to the Fifty Shades of Gender project!

We explore the diverse range of gender identities without judgement, while providing a platform for authenticity and self-expression for those that fall between or outside of the binaries – be that male or female, man or woman, masculine or feminine.

The podcast launched in July 2020, and the book is still on the cards. You can listen to podcast episodesread book chapters, find out more about us on the website, or connect with us on FacebookTwitterInstagram or YouTube.


I want this to be accessible to all, so I've not chosen exponential pricing ($1-2-5-50-100-1000, that kind of thing).

I wanted to pick some fun names for the tiers (after all, we're all magical creatures, right?) but please know there is no correlation between the magical creature you identify as and the amount you give. It's just for fun.

That said, if you'd like to give more, we're not going to growl at you and scare you away, like Shrek did to Donkey when they first met. (There was spit. It wasn't pretty.) You are very welcome to specify a particular amount when you sign up, like $7.77 or something.( I love those numbers.)

As I was giving some thought as to what to offer for each tier, I realised I don't want this to become a hierarchy, either – even though Patreon recommends you give more to those who give you more. The way I see it, if you support me with $1, I'm just as grateful as if you support me with $7 – or $700 (because #rebel and #rulebreaker). So it's basically a pay-what-you-want approach.


Now I've said all that, you may be wondering why on earth you should be giving us money. Well, I'm not one to tell anyone what to do, so only give us money if you want to. All I can tell you is that when you become a Patron, you'll be supporting us in bringing all these beautiful stories into the world. And who knows, increasing understanding and acceptance of all things gender along the way.

Now that's magic!

Also, you'll be part of our team of trusted advisors.

If you have something to say, we'll listen.

If you have a question, we'll answer.

If there's something you'd like us to cover, ask, try, find out, or talk about, let us know.

We look forward to going on this journey with you! From the bottom of our magical hearts to yours – THANK YOU! 🙂


PS: Please remember that I'm learning about all this stuff. I'll make mistakes. I'll get things wrong. And I may say something stupid, or – unbeknown to me – ignorant. I want you to know that I don't take this lightly. When apologies are in order, they will be made, and humble pie will be consumed. Good job I like pie.

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