Andre Shakti is creating I Am Poly & So Can You
70

patrons

$432
per month
How do we navigate this frontier of non-exclusive fornication with compassion and grace?

How do we resolve relationship conflicts in a way de-centered from heteronormativity?

For these questions and more, polyamory pundit Andre Shakti is here for you.




I'm Andre Shakti, and I'm a professional slut.

I'm also a queer white cisgender feminist in her late twenties living in the San Francisco Bay Area. I make my living through an often chaotic combination of pornographic work, stage performance, professional domination, and freelance journalism, as well as sex education and private coaching. I've presented internationally, from kink events and sex toy stores to Ivy League stadiums and intimate private parties, and have been featured on numerous podcasts such as The Whorecast, Sex on the Brain with Amory Jane, Life on the Swingset, Manwhore Podcast, and Sex Gets Real. I've co-chaired several sexuality-based conferences, most notably Sex Down South in Atlanta, GA, and was a key player in the destruction of Prop 60 in California this past November.

Most importantly, I've been ethically non-monogamous for eight years. Providing information, comfort, and counsel around polyamory to individuals, couples, triads, and quads has consistently been my highest-priority passion, which is why I started my I Am Poly & So Can You advice column via Harlot Magazine in January 2016.

Unfortunately, while Harlot initially broke the digital mold in both unapologetically intersectional content and ethical business practices, its lifespan was short, and it folded after eight months. I pitched I Am Poly & So Can You to over a dozen major publications in the aftermath and was routinely turned away. Meanwhile, the demand for an accessible, reliable, organically-evolving resource around navigating non-monogamous relationships only grew. In the span of January 2017 - February 2017 alone, I received a total of forty-nine separate inquiries in my social media inboxes from folks all over the world seeking my input on their unique poly situation(s). That's when I knew that if no one else would carry I Am Poly & So Can You, I'd find a way to make it viable on its own.

I introduce to you: IAmPoly.net, the official (and permanent!) home of I Am Poly & So Can You.



According to an August 2015 poll by YouGov, only one in four U.S. adults believe that polyamory is “morally acceptable.” The majority (56%) believe that polyamorous relationships are “morally wrong,” and 18% aren’t sure. Such high levels of public disapproval help explain why many individuals in unconventional relationships say that dealing with social stigma is one of the biggest problems of alternative intimate relationships. This stigma is directly responsible for the disgraceful lack of representation and information around non-monogamy in our country, and it continues to pervasively harm us and our relationships with others.

Why is education around non-monogamy so critical?

  • Without education around self awareness, emotional IQ, and communication skills, the potential for abuse in relationships increases, even if it was not intended. It’s the case with any relationship, but compounds in poly arrangements due to the complex emotional entanglements of multiple individuals.
  • For unlearning toxic cultural scripts and narratives, and as a way of learning to have non-possessive relationships and cultivate non-attachment.
  • To expand vocabulary for both internal and external dialogue about feelings related to polyamory.
  • For learning to set boundaries and make relationship agreements
  • To demonstrate that monogamy is not compulsory, and “jealousy” is not a dirty word.
  • Because learning to recognize, articulate and differentiate between your assumptions, needs, and preferences is a useful practice regardless of the type of relationship(s) you are in. Looking at options for consensual non-monogamy makes the invisible assumptions of monogamy more visible, and available for questioning and discussion.
  • Because providing information outside of structures that have prohibitive inclusivity or accessibility issues is in itself a radical act. Any "alternative" relationships are not taught in standard U.S. education systems, shown in media outlets, or casually normalized through mainstream culture. All of these structures teach monogamy, whether intentionally or not. Because these values are so entrenched in existing systems, increasing access to information about options is simply responsible and a way to fight oppressive structures.

So please, join me in creating and celebrating a vibrant community of relationship revolutionaries! Become a patron of I Am Poly & So Can You!, and get all the non-monogamy advice you can swallow (or spit - we don't judge).

All My Love,

Andre Shakti



"The life of a freelancer means if you can get funding for a project, that money basically pays for time you don’t have to spend looking for other work."

- Tina Horn of
Why Are People Into That?!

Special Thanks To: Jetta Rae Robertson, Sinclair Sexsmith, & Breanna Perry

Tiers
Relationship Revolutionary
$1 or more per month 37 of 50 patrons
Congratulations! You’re a relationship revolutionary! This pledge will give you access to my behind-the-scenes Patreon-only feed where you'll get the latest updates to projects, events, and everything art-related I'm up to, as well as exclusive stories and soundbites from my personal life!
Personal Shoutout
$5 or more per month 26 patrons
Get a one-time personal “thank you” shoutout from yours' truly, complete with unique personalized photo, on Facebook and Twitter! Plus exclusive FREE access to all products in my online store!
Bountiful Beneficiary
$15 or more per month 3 of 15 patrons
Send me anything (you'll cover shipping costs) and I'll sign it, plus all previous rewards. One item per person! Plus exclusive FREE access to all products in my online store!
Individualized Monthly Advice
$25 or more per month 2 of 10 patrons
One relationship question of yours’ will be answered publicly per month, plus all previous rewards!
Get on the Guest List
$40 or more per month 0 of 10 patrons
One relationship question of yours’ will be answered per month, PLUS you’ll receive discounted admission into any of my IRL shows, workshops, or events where I’m a featured presenter, performer, or producer. Largely restricted to the San Francisco Bay Area. All previous rewards included as well!
"Frisky Business" Care Packages
$50 or more per month 1 of 5 patrons
“Frisky Business” sexy care package via snail mail! You’ll receive a monthly envelope full of treats, accompanied by a personalized letter or piece of artwork by yours' truly! Items range from edible delectables, to safe(r) sex supplies, to stickers and pins, to more! All previous rewards included as well.
Professional Sponsorship
$75 or more per month 0 of 5 patrons
Professional sponsorship level! I'll:

1. Give your business, person, product, or project a shout out at the end of each weekly column, &


2. Promote your business, person, product or project to my social media networks once a week via Facebook and Twitter.

You will also have unlimited access to my  behind-the-scenes Patreon-only  feed where you'll get the latest updates to projects, events, and  everything art-related I'm up to, as well as exclusive stories and  soundbites from my personal life!

Professional Sponsorship SUPREME
$100 or more per month 1 of 5 patrons
Professional sponsorship level SUPREME! I'll:

1. Give your business, person, product, or project a shout out at the end of each weekly column,

2. Promote your business, person, product or project to her networks once a week via Facebook and Twitter, &

3. You will receive a complimentary 30-minute relationship coaching session via Skype, Google Hangout, or Facetime once per month!


You will also have unlimited access to my  behind-the-scenes Patreon-only  feed where you'll get the latest updates to projects, events, and  everything art-related I'm up to, as well as exclusive stories and  soundbites from my personal life!

Goals
$432 of $1,000 per month
A monthly target amount of $1,000 will make it possible for me to thoroughly address two new relationship quandries per week, as well as give proper attention to my intersectional activist endeavors around elevating the crucial voices of marginalized individuals in this uniquely hostile political climate. On average, I pen half a dozen articles a month on the intersections of queer and transgender identities, race, class, sexual pleasure, desire, and health, and the sex industry. I also regularly facilitate workshops and produce evening entertainment designed to combat ignorance around queer, fat, brown, transgender, female, immigrant, and sex worker bodies and experiences through inclusive, unapologetic education and exposure.

It will also cover the backend costs of hosting multiple websites, buying postage and office supplies, keeping a web developer and part-time assistant on call, preserving my home and vehicle so I can sustain both an office space and reliable transportation, maintaining a modest savings account so I can mitigate yearly small business and self-employed taxes, and much more.

Finally, it will ensure that I can continue to afford to make monthly donations to necessary organizations such as Standing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ) and TGI Justice Project (TGIJP)!
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How do we navigate this frontier of non-exclusive fornication with compassion and grace?

How do we resolve relationship conflicts in a way de-centered from heteronormativity?

For these questions and more, polyamory pundit Andre Shakti is here for you.




I'm Andre Shakti, and I'm a professional slut.

I'm also a queer white cisgender feminist in her late twenties living in the San Francisco Bay Area. I make my living through an often chaotic combination of pornographic work, stage performance, professional domination, and freelance journalism, as well as sex education and private coaching. I've presented internationally, from kink events and sex toy stores to Ivy League stadiums and intimate private parties, and have been featured on numerous podcasts such as The Whorecast, Sex on the Brain with Amory Jane, Life on the Swingset, Manwhore Podcast, and Sex Gets Real. I've co-chaired several sexuality-based conferences, most notably Sex Down South in Atlanta, GA, and was a key player in the destruction of Prop 60 in California this past November.

Most importantly, I've been ethically non-monogamous for eight years. Providing information, comfort, and counsel around polyamory to individuals, couples, triads, and quads has consistently been my highest-priority passion, which is why I started my I Am Poly & So Can You advice column via Harlot Magazine in January 2016.

Unfortunately, while Harlot initially broke the digital mold in both unapologetically intersectional content and ethical business practices, its lifespan was short, and it folded after eight months. I pitched I Am Poly & So Can You to over a dozen major publications in the aftermath and was routinely turned away. Meanwhile, the demand for an accessible, reliable, organically-evolving resource around navigating non-monogamous relationships only grew. In the span of January 2017 - February 2017 alone, I received a total of forty-nine separate inquiries in my social media inboxes from folks all over the world seeking my input on their unique poly situation(s). That's when I knew that if no one else would carry I Am Poly & So Can You, I'd find a way to make it viable on its own.

I introduce to you: IAmPoly.net, the official (and permanent!) home of I Am Poly & So Can You.



According to an August 2015 poll by YouGov, only one in four U.S. adults believe that polyamory is “morally acceptable.” The majority (56%) believe that polyamorous relationships are “morally wrong,” and 18% aren’t sure. Such high levels of public disapproval help explain why many individuals in unconventional relationships say that dealing with social stigma is one of the biggest problems of alternative intimate relationships. This stigma is directly responsible for the disgraceful lack of representation and information around non-monogamy in our country, and it continues to pervasively harm us and our relationships with others.

Why is education around non-monogamy so critical?

  • Without education around self awareness, emotional IQ, and communication skills, the potential for abuse in relationships increases, even if it was not intended. It’s the case with any relationship, but compounds in poly arrangements due to the complex emotional entanglements of multiple individuals.
  • For unlearning toxic cultural scripts and narratives, and as a way of learning to have non-possessive relationships and cultivate non-attachment.
  • To expand vocabulary for both internal and external dialogue about feelings related to polyamory.
  • For learning to set boundaries and make relationship agreements
  • To demonstrate that monogamy is not compulsory, and “jealousy” is not a dirty word.
  • Because learning to recognize, articulate and differentiate between your assumptions, needs, and preferences is a useful practice regardless of the type of relationship(s) you are in. Looking at options for consensual non-monogamy makes the invisible assumptions of monogamy more visible, and available for questioning and discussion.
  • Because providing information outside of structures that have prohibitive inclusivity or accessibility issues is in itself a radical act. Any "alternative" relationships are not taught in standard U.S. education systems, shown in media outlets, or casually normalized through mainstream culture. All of these structures teach monogamy, whether intentionally or not. Because these values are so entrenched in existing systems, increasing access to information about options is simply responsible and a way to fight oppressive structures.

So please, join me in creating and celebrating a vibrant community of relationship revolutionaries! Become a patron of I Am Poly & So Can You!, and get all the non-monogamy advice you can swallow (or spit - we don't judge).

All My Love,

Andre Shakti



"The life of a freelancer means if you can get funding for a project, that money basically pays for time you don’t have to spend looking for other work."

- Tina Horn of
Why Are People Into That?!

Special Thanks To: Jetta Rae Robertson, Sinclair Sexsmith, & Breanna Perry

Recent posts by Andre Shakti

Tiers
Relationship Revolutionary
$1 or more per month 37 of 50 patrons
Congratulations! You’re a relationship revolutionary! This pledge will give you access to my behind-the-scenes Patreon-only feed where you'll get the latest updates to projects, events, and everything art-related I'm up to, as well as exclusive stories and soundbites from my personal life!
Personal Shoutout
$5 or more per month 26 patrons
Get a one-time personal “thank you” shoutout from yours' truly, complete with unique personalized photo, on Facebook and Twitter! Plus exclusive FREE access to all products in my online store!
Bountiful Beneficiary
$15 or more per month 3 of 15 patrons
Send me anything (you'll cover shipping costs) and I'll sign it, plus all previous rewards. One item per person! Plus exclusive FREE access to all products in my online store!
Individualized Monthly Advice
$25 or more per month 2 of 10 patrons
One relationship question of yours’ will be answered publicly per month, plus all previous rewards!
Get on the Guest List
$40 or more per month 0 of 10 patrons
One relationship question of yours’ will be answered per month, PLUS you’ll receive discounted admission into any of my IRL shows, workshops, or events where I’m a featured presenter, performer, or producer. Largely restricted to the San Francisco Bay Area. All previous rewards included as well!
"Frisky Business" Care Packages
$50 or more per month 1 of 5 patrons
“Frisky Business” sexy care package via snail mail! You’ll receive a monthly envelope full of treats, accompanied by a personalized letter or piece of artwork by yours' truly! Items range from edible delectables, to safe(r) sex supplies, to stickers and pins, to more! All previous rewards included as well.
Professional Sponsorship
$75 or more per month 0 of 5 patrons
Professional sponsorship level! I'll:

1. Give your business, person, product, or project a shout out at the end of each weekly column, &


2. Promote your business, person, product or project to my social media networks once a week via Facebook and Twitter.

You will also have unlimited access to my  behind-the-scenes Patreon-only  feed where you'll get the latest updates to projects, events, and  everything art-related I'm up to, as well as exclusive stories and  soundbites from my personal life!

Professional Sponsorship SUPREME
$100 or more per month 1 of 5 patrons
Professional sponsorship level SUPREME! I'll:

1. Give your business, person, product, or project a shout out at the end of each weekly column,

2. Promote your business, person, product or project to her networks once a week via Facebook and Twitter, &

3. You will receive a complimentary 30-minute relationship coaching session via Skype, Google Hangout, or Facetime once per month!


You will also have unlimited access to my  behind-the-scenes Patreon-only  feed where you'll get the latest updates to projects, events, and  everything art-related I'm up to, as well as exclusive stories and  soundbites from my personal life!