JoEllen Notte

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You will have my unending gratitude for supporting my work! Every little bit helps. Plus you'll see my blog content first, get exclusive essay, and you can hang out and chat in our monthly open comment thread.
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At this tier, consider yourself one of my best friends! You'll get previews of projects I'm working on (including my new book In It Together), exclusive essays that won't be published elsewhere, and a monthly newsletter full of random thoughts, fun updates, and ASK JoELLEN advice column where I answer YOUR questions! 
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This tier will receive a personalized, hand-written thank you note in the mail from me. Plus the newsletter, early access, exclusive essays, and my three PDF ebooks: Sex and Depression with JoEllen NotteThe Best of Bedhead 2012-2016, and Spotting a Great Sex Shop (and Surviving a Bad One) with The Redhead Bedhead
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Do you enjoy my work and have the means to support it financially? Cool! Let's be besties! At this tier, you'll receive all the other perks, a fun mug, and all the love in my heart!
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Welcome aboard, sidekick! Let's fight stigma and spread education together!  At this tier, you'll receive all the other perks, my eternal love, ANDa signed copy of my first book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren’t Having.
  • Monthly Chat Thread
  • Patreon-Exclusive Essays
  • Monthly Patron Newsletter w/ Exclusive Discount Codes
  • New Project Sneak Peeks
  • ASK JoELLEN Advice Column
  • Personalized Thank You Note
  • Exclusive PDF Ebooks
  • Signed Copy of The Monster Under the Bed
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About JoEllen Notte

Who is JoEllen Notte?

Hi! That's me! I'm a writer, speaker, sex educator, and mental health advocate. I like to say I write about "sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken." Since 2012 I have been publishing essays on my site  The Redhead Bedhead, as well as for places like GlamourThe BBCBitchPsychCentralYourTangoKinkly, and more. I am also the author of 2020's The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having and the upcoming In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Family, and Friends.

Why are you on Patreon?

I love to write and, frankly, I'm damn good at it but as an essayist I found my options of "monetize my blog through advertising" or "pitch to a bunch of different editors in the hopes that one will pay me $50" unsatisfying and, with my long history of depression and anxiety, untenable. It left me frustrated and made me hate the blog I once loved. Enter Patreon! Here you can support my work and get to read that work before anyone else! 

What will I find here?

In addition to reading my new blog posts here first, you will also get  exclusive essays, previews of my books as I write them, a monthly newsletter with patron-exclusive discounts, chat threads, an advice column, ebooks, exclusive merchandise, and more! I'll be talking about sex, relationships, mental health, grief, probably vibrators and lube and a whole bunch of other stuff. It should be a lot of fun! 

Okay, but is your writing, you know, good?

Well, I certainly think so but don't take my word for it, click on the image below to check out some of my all-time favorite content. Consider it a way to try before you buy!



Do other people like what you do?

Hell yeah! Check it out, people have talked to me, written about me, and listened to me all over the place: PlayboyNYLONSavage LovecastGuys We F**kedSex Out LoudViceToronto SunLeaflyPleasure MechanicsSex Nerd SandraWoodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit, The Playground ConferenceSex City RadioSex On the Brain, and more!




How does this work? When am I charged?

I have created 5 different monthly patron levels and they all come with cool stuff. Pick one and you'll be all set. You will be charged on the first of the month. Because your pledge is per month the amount will not vary.  You can always edit or cancel your pledge. Still have questions?  Check out the FAQ.

I'm more of the "no strings attached" type, can I just donate once?

Of course! You can make a very much appreciated one-time donation here!

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