That’s What She Had

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With your help, this mama can have a well-deserved break with a cup of coffee and cake!

You deserve a fancy avo toast!

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With your help, this mama can relax with a slow Sunday breakfast and have a fancy avo toast!

Mama, go have a nice dinner!

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With your help, this mama can go out for dinner once in a while (whaaaaaat?!) and maybe even share it with papa.



About That’s What She Had

My name is Yulia. I am a Russian woman. I am a mama. I am an immigrant. A wife to a handsome and kind Sri Lankan man. I am what most people would call “a blogger”, but I like “a writer” so much better. I am a cat lady through and through. I am a future book author. At some point. I’ll get there. I am a lover of food, but especially freshly baked bread and mayo (not together).

But for the purposes of this particular piece, I am a mama first. If you came here from my blog, you know I usually write stories about food and travel. And in between my “How to spend one day in Munich" and “Where to eat in Colombo" type of posts I share so-called “side notes” with my thoughts on everything from being a bilingual writer to my husband’s relationship with bananas to my love for hot Brazilian actors.

Last year I became a mother, and it has been an amazing, emotional and overwhelming experience that I want to write about. I chose to leave my posts about motherhood completely ad-free, as opposed to other content on my blog. So now every time I sit down to write it's a decision between a travel-related post that will make me money or a deeply-personal one that will not. Not surprisingly, on most occasions the former one wins.

With your support, I get a chance to write about my motherhood journey. I am not doing it to give parenting advice (or to receive it), to teach anything, or even help anyone.

As one of my favorite writers, Elizabeth Gilbert, put it in her "Big Magic":

“… whenever anyone tells me that they want to write a book in order to help other people I always think 'Oh, please don't. Please don't try to help me.' I mean it's very kind of you to help people, but please don't make it your sole creative motive because we will feel the weight of your heavy intention, and it will put a strain upon our souls.”

And that is the author of “Eat. Pray. Love", the ultimate self-help book. I’ll be honest with you, I write stories about motherhood because I need them. But it’d be a lot more fun with like-minded people around me.

So if you are a mama (papas are welcome too), I’d love to share my honest stories about motherhood with you. I’ll tell you about little things that fill my heart with joy and routines that exhaust my resources, we’ll talk body image struggles and being judged as a parent, we’ll discuss raising kids in immigration and so many more topics that I can’t even fathom right now because my journey has just begun.

And I can only hope that in my very personal stories you’ll find a seed or two that will be relatable, that will make you smile or reminisce, or just provide a good read for your mid-day coffee break.

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