Gracefully Powerful

is creating tools for conversations that work in an age of rage

3

patrons

$12

per month

Welcome  🌸

If you've landed here, you are probably wanting to level up your people skills. 

It's a smart move. Groups are falling apart in toxic arguments more so than before. 


You suspect that we can do better! You want a way to increase your skills, that is robust, but is also kind and supportive and doesn't just land you in the deep end. 

  • 🐼 You are a team leader, manager, facilitator, space-holder, mediator, community or forum leader, teacher, healer, map maker or similar
  • 🐼 Or you just want to have better conversations in your personal life, which includes feeling good when participating in groups. 
  • 🐼 You want to know how to deal with Really Tricky People Situations without collapsing or exploding

Either way you are in the right place!

  • Good conversation brings out the best in people. It activates our humanity. 
  • Handling tricky moments will mean you can enjoy the other moments.
  • Welcome, 🌸 to a place where you can gather with others and grow your people skills in supportive community. 

In this Patreon I'm creating: 

🗺   Step by Step Guides on how to launch and moderate your own group

🎥  Gradually I'm creating short videos trainings on key aspects of working with people in groups:
  • How to host good conversations in small groups. How to support people to listen, discern and empathise.
  • Discover the different kinds of roles you can step into on the way to hosting full blown conversations
  • How to deal with the real tricky situations like conflict, tension, "difficult people", in Gracefully Powerful way. 
🔦  A Spotlight on different formats: Light Structures such as Listening Circles, Check-ins, Letterbox Protocols, Collective Presencing exercises, and how to design your own.

💛    Community Forums to get support from others and 💡share ideas on how to launch your own events. (A Discourse Forum is coming soon).

🌟    Opportunities to try out your skills, through supporting roles in other people's events 

🙋   Q&A (AMA) live sessions on all the most awkward questions about hosting, like:
  • “What if I make it worse?” What if we stumble on difficult topics?” “How to get started if I’ve never done this before?" What is different about now? What's my personal strength
💡 Advanced Techniques for pros!:
  • Videos on practical and (even fun!) tools for leaning into conflict
  • A 2019 PDF on the 14 new conflict resolution patterns everyone needs to understand:
🖥 Plus some bleeding edge stuff addressing online conflicts I’m sure no one will deny that this area in particular needs immediate attention! 

Ready to step up and host good conversation yourself. That listening circle or themed conversation you wanted to launch? It's time(!) and we are here to help you

My wish is that by engaging with the community here, you grow in confidence to do more of this work. That this helps you to figure out how you can do more of this, in your way, and at a pace and level you wish. 

There is a lot here! But I will work on one thing at a time at any point in time. So it will be digestible. :-)  


Frequently Asked Questions

What is Patreon?
It's a way for a bunch of people to support an independent creator they believe in, by giving them a monthly tip. The structured tiers on the right let you choose what kind of tip. Each tip gets different kinds of rewards.

When you sign up to any of the tiers, you become a patron of my work here. You also get to be part of a community that is learning, growing their skills and supporting each other to host good conversation.

What exactly will you do?

I’ll do all the things I have listed above. All with the aim of helping group leaders grow in confidence, get out there and improve the way we have conversations in the world.

Many people have felt despair about how the country is going. If we can have better conversations, person to person, and learn to do this in small groups, there is little that we cannot take on.

What if I just want to watch from the edges without doing anything?
You can! You can subscribe knowing that through your contribution you are already helping whole bunch of caring and capable community builders to do their thing. Plus you get the benefits that come with the tier!

What if I want to get more involved?
You can do so! You can start gently or you can dive right in!

What if I want to downgrade my tier at any point?

You can do so! And you can also pause your contribution if you need to, for a while.

What If I cannot afford any of the tiers?

If you cannot afford any of the tiers, never fear. I put plenty of material out in the world as open source: for anyone to use for free.

What do the tiers give you?
The tiers give you access to a bunch of different things including certain live trainings, 1-1 support and some moderated conversations because there is only so much of that I can do, and I have to pay rent!

What's an example, of a free resource?
How about the Listening Circle templates that I designed? They are downloadable even if you are not a patron. I've created a free guide you can use to step you through running a Listening Circle or a Listening Cafe. I've not made any claims on this whole process. Even the coaster design is downloadable from here for free.

Fun fact! I discovered that a University in Ireland is using the Guide I produced this as part of the syllabus of their Msc in Organsaional Psychology. Students are being tested on their ability to run Listening Circles! I'm just thrilled that this is helping people to make the world safer one conversation at a time.

Why are you doing this now?
In my heart, I have known I need to do this for a long time. In 2018 got involved in helping a huge group to resolve a conflict online and it made me more convinced than ever that I need to do this now.The world is undergoing a massive shift. A core part of what is needed is to improve our collective ability to help people talk to each other constructively.

More people need to step into do this. Too much of it is needed to be left to the experts. We need more Humanity Activators to step into their potential!

Are you able to do this?

Ive been told I was made for this precise moment! (In those exact words!) When the Brexit vote happened, that next week I was approached no less than five times by people I respect hugely to ask me to do something to address increased social tensions.
That spurred me to start the Listening Movement. That in turn made me realise that there is a need for accessible training in how to host better conversations.

How did you get here?
You could say I’ve spent my life preparing for this. Ive trained facilitators, coaches and therapists. I've worked in conflict resolution and peace-building. I've worked with addiction, habit change and learning games. I hold a black belt in aikido - the martial art of peace. I’m qualified to teach it. I've been hosting conversations of all kinds for just under 30 years. I've been told I am very good at teaching it to others. Its what is needed now, on a massive scale!

This patreon gives me the chance to make this happen. And it also give you a chance to get involved and also meet others who care about this as much as you do.

Why Patreon?

Patreon helps me receive contributions from those who are loving what I do and who want to be part of it. It's just a structure through which I can help people and be supported along the way. Everyone wins!

Can anyone really do this?
Everyone can play a role in hosting better conversations! If you want to step up to do so, you are worth gold and this is here to support you.

Not everyone starts at the same place. I am creating material that is accessible from different starting points. So you can jump in at the level that you want to.

🌸🗡Community Building friends this is a call to you… You are needed! If you don’t believe me.. just look at the state of online conversations. We need to level, up!

Don't despair at the state of the world. Find your niche as a  🌸🗡 Community Builder and conversation host and get stuck in. The reward will be hope in your heart and the felt sense of the world as a safer place.
Tiers
🦅 Silver Tier Supporter
$1 or more per month

This will help to pay for a  ☕️ cup of coffee. As more people join, this will pay for more refreshments in community gatherings. 


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed 
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Silver Tier supporter) 
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it. 

🐯 Gold Tier Supporter
$5 or more per month

This will help to pay for things like 🔖 printing small wallet-size cards with tips on them to give to participants who come to community events, to inspire them to keep going. 


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed 
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Gold Tier supporter)  
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping.  It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it.  

🐬 Teal Tier Supporter
$10 or more per month

This will help to pay for things like a 💛 mentoring session for someone who wants to make things in their community but needs a bit of caring support.


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Teal Tier supporter) 
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it. 

🦋 Cerulean Tier Supporter
$20 or more per month only 10 left

This will help to pay for things like 💙 longer coaching/mentoring sessions for community leaders and for those who want to make a things happen in their communities and need that bit of extra caring support.


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed 
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Cerulean Tier supporter)  
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it.

🐼 Onyx Tier Supporter
$50 or more per month only 3 left

This will help to pay for things like ✨🎨 graphic designers to make the material easier to use for community heroes and sheroes.


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as an Onyx Tier supporter)  
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 Well, we are going ot go places! I shall make sure of it! I love to put myself behind someone and give them all my support to help them move forward.

🦄 Rainbow Tier Supporter
$100 or more per month only 2 left

This will help to pay for those things like ⛩🏫 training bursaries for community leaders who want to train in our top-level programs like our bootcamp, to bring their communities to life


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (My Little Epic Adventures... days in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Rainbow Tier supporter)
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens

  • You are a kind of Guardian Angel who wants to help good stuff.  You will have a special place in Unicorn Heaven.
Goals
3 of 10 patrons
When 10 people join, I will upload the first video How-to video to the library on a topic of your choice. (I'll create a poll so we can decide together)
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Welcome  🌸

If you've landed here, you are probably wanting to level up your people skills. 

It's a smart move. Groups are falling apart in toxic arguments more so than before. 


You suspect that we can do better! You want a way to increase your skills, that is robust, but is also kind and supportive and doesn't just land you in the deep end. 

  • 🐼 You are a team leader, manager, facilitator, space-holder, mediator, community or forum leader, teacher, healer, map maker or similar
  • 🐼 Or you just want to have better conversations in your personal life, which includes feeling good when participating in groups. 
  • 🐼 You want to know how to deal with Really Tricky People Situations without collapsing or exploding

Either way you are in the right place!

  • Good conversation brings out the best in people. It activates our humanity. 
  • Handling tricky moments will mean you can enjoy the other moments.
  • Welcome, 🌸 to a place where you can gather with others and grow your people skills in supportive community. 

In this Patreon I'm creating: 

🗺   Step by Step Guides on how to launch and moderate your own group

🎥  Gradually I'm creating short videos trainings on key aspects of working with people in groups:
  • How to host good conversations in small groups. How to support people to listen, discern and empathise.
  • Discover the different kinds of roles you can step into on the way to hosting full blown conversations
  • How to deal with the real tricky situations like conflict, tension, "difficult people", in Gracefully Powerful way. 
🔦  A Spotlight on different formats: Light Structures such as Listening Circles, Check-ins, Letterbox Protocols, Collective Presencing exercises, and how to design your own.

💛    Community Forums to get support from others and 💡share ideas on how to launch your own events. (A Discourse Forum is coming soon).

🌟    Opportunities to try out your skills, through supporting roles in other people's events 

🙋   Q&A (AMA) live sessions on all the most awkward questions about hosting, like:
  • “What if I make it worse?” What if we stumble on difficult topics?” “How to get started if I’ve never done this before?" What is different about now? What's my personal strength
💡 Advanced Techniques for pros!:
  • Videos on practical and (even fun!) tools for leaning into conflict
  • A 2019 PDF on the 14 new conflict resolution patterns everyone needs to understand:
🖥 Plus some bleeding edge stuff addressing online conflicts I’m sure no one will deny that this area in particular needs immediate attention! 

Ready to step up and host good conversation yourself. That listening circle or themed conversation you wanted to launch? It's time(!) and we are here to help you

My wish is that by engaging with the community here, you grow in confidence to do more of this work. That this helps you to figure out how you can do more of this, in your way, and at a pace and level you wish. 

There is a lot here! But I will work on one thing at a time at any point in time. So it will be digestible. :-)  


Frequently Asked Questions

What is Patreon?
It's a way for a bunch of people to support an independent creator they believe in, by giving them a monthly tip. The structured tiers on the right let you choose what kind of tip. Each tip gets different kinds of rewards.

When you sign up to any of the tiers, you become a patron of my work here. You also get to be part of a community that is learning, growing their skills and supporting each other to host good conversation.

What exactly will you do?

I’ll do all the things I have listed above. All with the aim of helping group leaders grow in confidence, get out there and improve the way we have conversations in the world.

Many people have felt despair about how the country is going. If we can have better conversations, person to person, and learn to do this in small groups, there is little that we cannot take on.

What if I just want to watch from the edges without doing anything?
You can! You can subscribe knowing that through your contribution you are already helping whole bunch of caring and capable community builders to do their thing. Plus you get the benefits that come with the tier!

What if I want to get more involved?
You can do so! You can start gently or you can dive right in!

What if I want to downgrade my tier at any point?

You can do so! And you can also pause your contribution if you need to, for a while.

What If I cannot afford any of the tiers?

If you cannot afford any of the tiers, never fear. I put plenty of material out in the world as open source: for anyone to use for free.

What do the tiers give you?
The tiers give you access to a bunch of different things including certain live trainings, 1-1 support and some moderated conversations because there is only so much of that I can do, and I have to pay rent!

What's an example, of a free resource?
How about the Listening Circle templates that I designed? They are downloadable even if you are not a patron. I've created a free guide you can use to step you through running a Listening Circle or a Listening Cafe. I've not made any claims on this whole process. Even the coaster design is downloadable from here for free.

Fun fact! I discovered that a University in Ireland is using the Guide I produced this as part of the syllabus of their Msc in Organsaional Psychology. Students are being tested on their ability to run Listening Circles! I'm just thrilled that this is helping people to make the world safer one conversation at a time.

Why are you doing this now?
In my heart, I have known I need to do this for a long time. In 2018 got involved in helping a huge group to resolve a conflict online and it made me more convinced than ever that I need to do this now.The world is undergoing a massive shift. A core part of what is needed is to improve our collective ability to help people talk to each other constructively.

More people need to step into do this. Too much of it is needed to be left to the experts. We need more Humanity Activators to step into their potential!

Are you able to do this?

Ive been told I was made for this precise moment! (In those exact words!) When the Brexit vote happened, that next week I was approached no less than five times by people I respect hugely to ask me to do something to address increased social tensions.
That spurred me to start the Listening Movement. That in turn made me realise that there is a need for accessible training in how to host better conversations.

How did you get here?
You could say I’ve spent my life preparing for this. Ive trained facilitators, coaches and therapists. I've worked in conflict resolution and peace-building. I've worked with addiction, habit change and learning games. I hold a black belt in aikido - the martial art of peace. I’m qualified to teach it. I've been hosting conversations of all kinds for just under 30 years. I've been told I am very good at teaching it to others. Its what is needed now, on a massive scale!

This patreon gives me the chance to make this happen. And it also give you a chance to get involved and also meet others who care about this as much as you do.

Why Patreon?

Patreon helps me receive contributions from those who are loving what I do and who want to be part of it. It's just a structure through which I can help people and be supported along the way. Everyone wins!

Can anyone really do this?
Everyone can play a role in hosting better conversations! If you want to step up to do so, you are worth gold and this is here to support you.

Not everyone starts at the same place. I am creating material that is accessible from different starting points. So you can jump in at the level that you want to.

🌸🗡Community Building friends this is a call to you… You are needed! If you don’t believe me.. just look at the state of online conversations. We need to level, up!

Don't despair at the state of the world. Find your niche as a  🌸🗡 Community Builder and conversation host and get stuck in. The reward will be hope in your heart and the felt sense of the world as a safer place.

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Tiers
🦅 Silver Tier Supporter
$1 or more per month

This will help to pay for a  ☕️ cup of coffee. As more people join, this will pay for more refreshments in community gatherings. 


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed 
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Silver Tier supporter) 
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it. 

🐯 Gold Tier Supporter
$5 or more per month

This will help to pay for things like 🔖 printing small wallet-size cards with tips on them to give to participants who come to community events, to inspire them to keep going. 


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed 
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Gold Tier supporter)  
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping.  It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it.  

🐬 Teal Tier Supporter
$10 or more per month

This will help to pay for things like a 💛 mentoring session for someone who wants to make things in their community but needs a bit of caring support.


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Teal Tier supporter) 
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it. 

🦋 Cerulean Tier Supporter
$20 or more per month only 10 left

This will help to pay for things like 💙 longer coaching/mentoring sessions for community leaders and for those who want to make a things happen in their communities and need that bit of extra caring support.


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed 
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Cerulean Tier supporter)  
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 My heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to spark humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it.

🐼 Onyx Tier Supporter
$50 or more per month only 3 left

This will help to pay for things like ✨🎨 graphic designers to make the material easier to use for community heroes and sheroes.


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as an Onyx Tier supporter)  
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens


<3 Well, we are going ot go places! I shall make sure of it! I love to put myself behind someone and give them all my support to help them move forward.

🦄 Rainbow Tier Supporter
$100 or more per month only 2 left

This will help to pay for those things like ⛩🏫 training bursaries for community leaders who want to train in our top-level programs like our bootcamp, to bring their communities to life


You get: 

  • Behind the Scenes posts  (My Little Epic Adventures... days in the life of a Community Builder). Uplifting and entertaining
  • Access to early release of toolkits, thinking & materials as it's developed
  • A shout out on material that is produced here.  (Unless you prefer to be anonymous, you will be credited as a Rainbow Tier supporter)
  • A patron badge in the DISCOURSE community forum when it opens

  • You are a kind of Guardian Angel who wants to help good stuff.  You will have a special place in Unicorn Heaven.