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Audio blog launch!
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I will create audio recordings of all new blog posts, so you can hear me read the essays and dirty stories I post.
Patreon-only monthly hangouts
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Monthly video webinar hangouts with me for any & all Patrons. Ask questions, talk, get some coaching, listen to me read erotica—whatever you want to use the time for.


SINCLAIR SEXSMITH is a teacher, coach, and writer specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They write at since 2006, which Jiz Lee called "The world’s largest archive of kinky, queer erotica from a genderqueer, masculine of center perspective." Sinclair’s gender theory and queer erotica is widely published in anthologies and online, and they are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012 and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, both published by Cleis Press. In 2014, their first book of short stories, Sweet & Rough: Sixteen Stories of Queer Smut, was published. They use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself.


Oakland, CA, USA

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I'm Sinclair, and I'm a writer, teacher, and coach about sexualities, genders, and relationships.

What that really means is: I got obsessed with studying sex, love, expression, and bodies, and I wrote my own way to a satisfying sex life, my own clarity around gender, and good ways to be in relationships—and I think you can, too. 

I've been writing about all of that for years now, and I really want to keep doing it. I have many ways that I have made income, but I want to keep writing excellent work and publishing it online (for free!), which is a lot of work and takes a lot of time.

I could really use your help. 

Patreon is a way for you to pledge a certain dollar amount
(you choose!) for each new piece that I publish on, five per month. You're charged monthly,
and you get to set a maximum amount. More details on
how Patreon works in the FAQ at the bottom!

After having patrons since July 2014, I can tell you: Patreon has changed my work so much! By becoming a patron, you are giving me the opportunity to keep my writing going. It really is that simple. I value your donation so much, and your support inspires me to succeed.

What's in it for you when you pledge? Well, I do have some pretty sweet perks you can read about below, including access to the Patreon-only super secret backer page where I'll be sharing parts of my writing process.

But bigger than that, you get to help fuel queer, whole-body, inclusively erotic movements for radical gender inclusivity and liberation. My work encourages better sex lives, better relationships, and becoming more like ourselves than we have ever been. I know that sounds like pie-in-the-sky dreaming, but what can I say. I dream big. I live these truths every day, and my art reflects that. You get to have access to even more of those examples, trials and errors, and triumphs when you support my work, and you get to be part of what fuels me to keep going, and continue putting radical, life-changing writings out into the world. 

Whether or not you pledge money here on Patreon, is free to access and read. But pledging some money here is a small way for you to give back. 

If you enjoy my work and would like to help support it, please become a patron on Patreon. 

I’m setting up a super secret backer page for patrons where I will post photos of my handwritten notes, my plans for Sugarbutch, and snippets of stories in progress—basically, you'll get to see some of my personal, private journal. It’s a tiny, behind-the-scenes, snap shot that only you backers will see so you can follow along with my progress.

Your pledges make it easier for me to keep Sugarbutch going strong. I am so grateful that you read what I write—here, and elsewhere. Seriously, my job is better than any I could have imagined. Thank you.



What is Patreon and how does it work?
Patreon is kind of like Kickstarter, except instead of making one large-ish donation towards one big project (like a new book), you make recurring micro-donations for ongoing creative work. It's crowdfunding on a per-creation basis, so I get to keep doing what I do best: writing short stories and essays, and sharing them with you.

How do I become a patron? 
Enter an amount you'd like to donate per piece of writing  in the box on the upper left and click "Become A Patron." You'll receive updates of my work in your inbox, and have access to my Patreon-only super secret backer page! Depending on the pledge level you choose, you can get some additional perks, too. 

What is Sugarbutch?
I call it an "online personal writing project," and it's also known as a blog. After running a variety of online diaries since 1996, I began the Sugarbutch project in 2006 as a way to write myself to a better sex life, to more satisfying relationships, and to figure out my kinky inclinations and my gender expression and identity. Since then, it's been many things: confidant, therapy process, creative outlet, way to connect, way to court lovers, way to express.

How often do you update? 
Weekly, and five times a month. (Some months only have four weeks and will have a bonus post!) Sugarbutch has averaged 20 posts monthly in the archives, but I have been paring down and posting fewer things of a higher quality. Less crap, more content. Less fluff, more dirty stuff. You get it.

How often am I charged?
You will be charged at the end of the month, when Patreon tallies up how many updates I posted. I'll be updating 5 times a month, so if you pledged $2 per update, then at the end of the month you will be charged $10 total. You can set a cap on how much you’re willing to be charged each month, so even if I update a million times you won’t be charged beyond your maximum amount. You can edit or cancel your pledge any time before you’re charged. 

Thank you for your support!
I really appreciate it. If you have questions about any of this, I would be glad to be in touch—I'm [email protected]. I hope you enjoy the writings.
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