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Hello friends!
For this episode of AEWCH, I welcome writer, editor, feminist icon Erin Gloria Ryan. Also, she is one of the funniest people in the world. We talk about #MeToo, tweeting, how to navigate creating and engaging with "problematic" art, and how not to listen to people. Also, I tell you my crazy person story about Scott Caan and Erin tells hers about Bob Odenkirk.

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• I'm sure you know It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, which is one of my favoritest shows ever. Did you know that there was a brief #ConnerOnSunny campaign, because I used to look and sound like Charlie Day? I mean, I sort of look like fat Charlie Day now. It all started when Horrible Bosses came out, and a bunch of gay porn producers and performers were saying, "let's make a parody with Conner as Charlie Day!"

Anyway, that led to me changing my twitter bio to "The Charlie Day of gay porn" which led to THIS tweet from Mary Elizabeth Ellis, Charlie Day's wife, which was both thrilling and truly truly mortifying.

• Rainer Werner Fassbinder is my favorite director, and The Bitter Tears of Petra von Kant is one of my favorite films of all time. You should watch it. Here's a link to it via Criterion. If I'm not convincing enough, please look at this image and be in awe.

• There are many histories to consider when looking at art, not just social justice history. I have an essay about this coming out on medium, particularly when it comes to pornography, and I'll let you know when it's out. 

• I should've said to Erin, um, the character on Game of Thrones who got raped was also a fantasy character, but I didn't get to. So HA ERIN I AM NOW ARGUING IN THE SHOW NOTES. Actually, one of my principles for episodes of my show is that disagreement doesn't offer much. And I'm not going to link to Game of Throneshere.

• I love and am often at odds with Rebecca Traister. She's a great thinker, and manages to productively provoke even when her conclusions take what is for me a wrong turn. Here's Rebecca on Erin's old podcast, Girl Friday.

• Here's that Black Rifle Coffee ad. It's horrible and mildly arousing.

• And here's the article "If 'Did Not Vote' Had Been A Candidate In The 2016 US Presidential Election, It Would Have Won By a Landslide" 

• Erin's voice on twitter is hilarious and fucked up and challenging. Here's one of my favs:

• Scott Caan. The tip of the tongue taking a trip of two steps down the palate to tap, at the first, on the teeth. Scott. Caan.

• A great book about the failure of identity politics, particularly when identities come into conflict with one another, is Mistaken Identity by Asad Haider, which is out in May. While you're waiting for it, check out his magazine, Viewpoint

• Yes, I bleeped out the word "faggot" because of YouTube's stupid standards. Even though I am a total faggot, if I SAY faggot in a YouTube video, they can label it sensitive and therefore less searchable. It's stupid.

• One of the foundations of my don't-bring-your-straight-sexual-baggage-to-gay-people is one of the foundations of lots of queer thought: Michael Warner's excellent book, The Trouble with Normal. It is, unfortunately, still very relevant.

• Oh here's the tweet that inspired the pile on team-up of misunderstanding feminists and fuck-a-lot-of-bitches dudebros. Whoops.

• Yes, if you watch the outtake after the closing credits, yes. I walked into a door. It hurt. 

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