Dorset 2018, these three long lenses were set up by the photographers who tried to capture the dolphins travelling along the bay, the photographers taking a break further up but no doubt their lenses worked in the background.
Today I found it difficult to find the right image for the blog, but as soon as I came across this image the right title popped up. "Observing" something we all do a lot these days, observing the season get us by, watching the day turn into night and night turning into day again, we observe the news scroll on our screen in the hopes for a reprieve to the current world we find ourselves in. Through observation we hope to gai a bit more insight into what is happening; or perhaps mindlessly waiting for the time to pass. We observe our breath, observe the wind blowing the tree, observe the rain flowing down the window. And we continue observing, sometimes picking up information, sometimes just let thing pass us without seeing, hearing or selling it.
I wonder how much of that which we observe we actually take in? Did you see for example the seagull just beyond the lens?
The other day I challenged one of my clients to join me in doing a bit of people watching as we were discussing human behaviour and what can we notice about people when they relax in a public place. We tried to figure out the relationship between the people and try to make sense of their movements. This particular client has difficulties getting into healthy relationships and finds it difficult to trust their “gut”, and on a few occasions they got themselves into exploitative situations. So how can you teach someone to trust their instincts? How can you teach someone to read a crowd? How can you demonstrate human behaviour if not in a public place by observing? But then again, is their true body language or is it an invention for us to make sense of what movements another person makes? Do we not over generalise from the prism of our own perception? Are we not “mind reading”, meaning trying to imagine what they other may be thinking and as a result they move an arm in a certain way? And just to illustrate that point I made an observation to my client that a female we saw in the distance who kept flicking her hair, I said she was no doubt flirting with someone (she was on the phone) to which my client said “ well when I am nervous I play with my hair just like her, but I am not flirting”. In this example I used my own observation of human behaviour to create a description to the behaviour, whilst my client made a contrary observation from their perception Who was right though? Does it matter?
So, what kind of observing do you do in your life? And what conclusions to you come to following the observation? How does that which you observe influence your next move?
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