I made some observations about the conflict over people requesting donations for personal reasons online.
"Guessy people see [some] crowdfunding requests as inappropriate and
invasive, especially given that many of that person’s friends probably
have trouble with their finances as well. It is difficult for them to
see a request for donations and not feel obligated to comply with it,
and they assume that others are being similarly manipulated.
Asky people don’t understand what the issue is. Anyone is free to
ignore the crowdfunding post and keep scrolling, or even unfriend the
asker for good measure. Asky people try not to be overly concerned about
other people’s finances; that’s their job to manage for themselves. To
them, there’s no harm in asking as long as you aren’t manipulative about
it and can take no for an answer."