But life is chaotic, and we don't always have time to do all the things that we want to. I know that cleaning is often the thing that doesn't get done around here, when I get too busy or too tired. And I have learned to not beat myself up for it!
Getting upset and frustrated with yourself for not cleaning when you think you should have, just makes you miserable. It doesn't actually make the house any cleaner! One of the great things bout cleaning is that if I didn't have time to wipe my counters down yesterday, but today I do, tomorrow it won't matter anyways, they will need to be wiped down again. So missing a cleaning here or there isn't that big of a deal.
We can also use our cleaning time to work on releasing other things in our lives that have started accumulating in our dark, hidden corners. Just like the cobwebs that mysteriously form on your walls, and when you notice the first one you realize there are a dozen that must have been there for ages, sometimes you look around your life and realize you have some bad habits or old patterns that have just been hanging around collecting dust.
They don't serve you, and you really don't have any reason to keep doing them, you just are because you always have been and you haven't paid enough attention to start clearing them out. The great thing about this kind of 'hidden dirt' is that pretty much as soon as you start paying attention it starts sorting itself out.
One thing you can do, is name your bad habits and old patterns, and send them out of you into that dustbunny in your bathroom closet. Then, sweep it up and take it out of your house! As you are doing this, you are also starting to break up the energy in yourself, so that you can start letting go of these old energies that are just hanging around because you haven't been looking for them.
Another place we often beat ourselves up unnecessarily is with our spiritual life. Whether you are busy with your job, with family, or just with life in general, it is easy to set high spiritual goals and then feel bad because you didn't meet them.
It all seems so easy when you think about it. Sure, you can meditate for ten minutes in the morning. But then you didn't set the coffee pot up the night before, and you forgot that you were meeting someone, and you only have thirty minutes to be out the door, and when you look at the clock you're already five minutes late! Stuff happens!
Even if we have all the time in the world, we may not do all of the things we had thought we would. Perhaps you intended to do a full ritual for the full moon, but you were just tired and wanted nothing more than to curl up in a blanket and take a nap. Even if you don't take your nap, you may have dragged your feet until there wasn't time to do what you had planned.
This doesn't make you a bad person, nor does it make you any less spiritual! When we walk our path, whatever it may be, it will definitely include work, but the path itself isn't work. When you are being spiritual, you are expressing joy in your heart, you are celebrating with the divine and you are honoring both your own inner nature and the world around you. These are not things that we do out of duty or 'because we should'....but things we do because we want to.
So if you miss doing something, don't stress it. If you still have time to do something, then do it. If you need to change your plans to accommodate an unexpected situation, then that is fine!
Ultimately, there is no reason to get upset with yourself for not doing something you thought you should do. The past is gone and done, there is nothing we can do about it. All we can do is forgive ourselves, acknowledge that we had wanted something more, and set our sights on where we want to go in the future. Don't focus on what didn't happen, just set your sights back on where you want to be!