Adding up your debt can be depressing and worrisome. We don't like talking about bills, how we are living paycheck to paycheck, how difficult it is becoming to make ends meet. We worry about where the money is going to come from to pay the heating bill. We worry about how we're going to pay for the unexpected vehicle repair bill, or presents for the grand-kids, or appliance repairs, and on and on and on. We tell ourselves that if we don't talk about them maybe they will go away. So we stop talking about them. But we don't stop thinking about them. They are always there, roaming around in our minds, taunting us.
Money drives our lives, hopes dreams and stress level. For most of us our anxiety stems from not having enough money. Money decides how we live. It influences our health, how we help our kids and grand-kids, and what we can afford to buy.
It's hard to talk about money, but talking about it can also be therapeutic if we talk it out. Money is always going to be a sensitive subject, especially between a husband and wife. Between couples, money is usually a chronic problem, a problem to be avoided and not talked about. We stress about what brand of toilet paper is cheaper, why we need to but store brands, or who is spending more. Relationships are more often strained by what people do with their money, not how much they have or how much they make.
If your wife works, always remember the words of Donna Summer:
"She works hard for the money, so hard for it, honey
She works hard for the money So you better treat her right"
In "The Money Song", Dean Martin sang:
"If you got it you don't need it If you need it you don't got it Funny funny funny what money can do"
It is truly amazing that we avoid talking about an issue that is so important and creates so much stress. Why don't we tackle it head-on? We talk about our families, our health issues, our hopes and fears, our failures ad our successes, but money? It's an issue that we avoid talking about.
Why do you find it hard to talk about money?