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Polyamory: Orientation or Lifestyle Choice?
I wrote about a question I often get about polyamory: is it an orientation that you're born with and can't change, or is it a choice you make? (Spoiler: yes.)

'I think that “Is polyamory an orientation or a lifestyle choice?” is a Trojan horse. It’s hiding two scarier questions that most people have a much harder time asking openly. They are:

  1. “Can I force myself into a monogamous relationship even though I prefer polyamory?”
  2. “Do I really have to tolerate these people?”'