Postmodern Woman Week Ending 18/10/2015

I know this post is a week late. My apologies. It has been a rather exciting few months for me, if you haven't noticed. And last week, I started my training to become a full-stack developer. Oh yeah, as if I'm not nerdy enough, I'm officially a coder!

Eh em, so obviously my time is a bit less free. Not that I'm ever idle. Anyway, the week before last we entered some unexplored territory with "Like a Virgin: Pegging For the Very First Time". This brilliant article was written by a guest author and is a vulnerable and powerful look into what it's like to switch roles in the bedroom. Pegging is something not a lot of folks talk about but the stigma is breaking down. And Anne's beautiful, sensual, and insightful journey into how such a thing can bring people closer together is exhilarating.

And speaking of wonderfully vulnerable moments, I explored the fear of intimacy in everyday interactions in "Why Are Holy Moments So Terrifying?". Most days many people spend so much of their effort talking past one another. It's not easy to live a completely vulnerable life, to really ask how someone is truly doing, to always be aware of the miracle of humanity. But it is possible. Every day can be full of existential crises and existential joy. And being radically honest is how we get there.

In "My Transitioned Love... Promising Solutions for Changing Relationships" Louisa speaks of divorce, of family, and and of all the different ways we can fit together. She speaks of intimacy and family without compulsory sexuality. She speaks of her metamours experience coming into a "ready-made" family. Where many poly folks tend to see it as intimidating, Louisa's family's story shows a free and welcoming path. When we are truly free to design our families around reality the true beauty shines through.

Finally, in "Pregnancy: The Blessing of a Curse" I explore the realities of being disabled and pregnant. I discuss the problematic views surrounding fertility and planning for those of us who are subfertile, infertile, or otherwise have chronic issues. There are many misconceptions about what it means to be pregnant, about what it feels like, and an absolute dearth of tailored and relevant information for people who are pregnant while dealing with chronic illness, poverty, and subfertility. It is not always a happy time, there are certain risks that come from having certain illnesses, and it's effects on the body are enormous.

I'm happy that something I thought was impossible happened so effortlessly this time around. But I also know that it will likely be my last. And the price I am paying with my health is unknown to most.

Still, that won't stop me from speaking up and loving loud and making the world a safer place. I am unchained; and it's possible for us all to break our chains.

One day at a time, lovelies.

Michon & Louisa