Don't be trapped into accepting shame from someone who is trying to keep you from doing something you have every right to do.
When someone is putting pressure on you (one way or the other), ask yourself this: If this person had my best interests at heart, what would he tell me? Also: If this person was trying to protect herself at my expense, what would she say? Who benefits if I do the thing I want to do? Who benefits if I don't? To whom is shame useful? Do I have the right to do what I want to do? Is my gut screaming at me to do it?
It can clarify a lot of things.