Real Social Skills is creating posts about skills for living free and treating others well
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You know all those interactions that seem wrong but you can't put your finger on why? I figure out how they work, and explain them.

Some notable posts:

Nonviolent Communication Can Hurt People (If you've ever felt awful after someone insisted that you use I-statements, talk about feelings, or stop judging, this post might help.)

Stop Romanticizing Neurotypicality (If by "learning social skills" you mean "teaching autistic people the things neurotypicals learn automatically", you're doing it wrong. Autistic people are not worse at social interaction than neurotypicals.)

Listening to Someone Facing a Bad Situation (How to support someone without making it all about you)

A Post For Men About Creepy Men (If women are complaining to you about a male friend, don't tell them he's just awkward.)

Noticing When Repetition is Communication (If an autistic person repeats something over and over, it might be because you didn't understand them the first time.)

Listening to Folks Whose Speech is Unusual (Don't assume that someone is being dismissive or cute when they phrase things oddly.)

When Your Right To Say No Is Entirely Hypothetical (Some people who love talking about boundaries trample all over them in practice)

"You Have So Much Potential" (How it can be degrading to be praised for potential rather than accomplishments) 

Learning Self Respect (Some strategies for respecting yourself when others don't.)

If you want to read more posts like these, please subscribe and support my writing. Your support enables me to spend time writing.
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You know all those interactions that seem wrong but you can't put your finger on why? I figure out how they work, and explain them.

Some notable posts:

Nonviolent Communication Can Hurt People (If you've ever felt awful after someone insisted that you use I-statements, talk about feelings, or stop judging, this post might help.)

Stop Romanticizing Neurotypicality (If by "learning social skills" you mean "teaching autistic people the things neurotypicals learn automatically", you're doing it wrong. Autistic people are not worse at social interaction than neurotypicals.)

Listening to Someone Facing a Bad Situation (How to support someone without making it all about you)

A Post For Men About Creepy Men (If women are complaining to you about a male friend, don't tell them he's just awkward.)

Noticing When Repetition is Communication (If an autistic person repeats something over and over, it might be because you didn't understand them the first time.)

Listening to Folks Whose Speech is Unusual (Don't assume that someone is being dismissive or cute when they phrase things oddly.)

When Your Right To Say No Is Entirely Hypothetical (Some people who love talking about boundaries trample all over them in practice)

"You Have So Much Potential" (How it can be degrading to be praised for potential rather than accomplishments) 

Learning Self Respect (Some strategies for respecting yourself when others don't.)

If you want to read more posts like these, please subscribe and support my writing. Your support enables me to spend time writing.

Recent posts by Real Social Skills

Tiers
Pledge $2 or more per month
The warm fuzzy feeling of knowing you are helping me to write more posts - and occasional thank you pictures of cats, rocks, and other happy things.
eBook!
$4 or more per month
At the end of each month, I will send you all of that month's original posts as a well formatted ePub book, with a bonus thank you message.
Book club!
$5 or more per month
Access to the protected @rsocialbooks Twitter account where I livetweet/comment on books I’m reading. You can also nominate books for me to read next. 
Followed
$6 or more per month
I'll follow you on Twitter.

(Indicate whether you want to be followed by @rsocialskills, @rutiregan, neither, or both)

 

Sticker!
$15 or more per month
At the end of the month, I will select and send you a cool sticker related to blog themes. 


(US addresses only for now.)