Sofia Bustamante is creating tools for conversations that work in an age of rage
2
patrons
$5
per month

Welcome,  🌸🗡Hactivators! Activating our humanity through good conversation!

If 🐼 you've landed on this page, you probably care about the fact that groups are falling apart in toxic arguments more so than before. You suspect that we can do better! 

You 🐼  are a facilitator, space-holder, mediator, community or forum leader, teacher, healer, map maker or similar. It's been your role to host conversations. But because of the changing times, and more conflict surfacing, you are sensing the need to level up!

Or  🐼 you suspect you could do this, have never tried, are curious and want to discover more!

Either way, 🐼 you are in the right place! 

  • Good conversation brings out the best in people. It activates our humanity. 
  • A lot more people need to step into these roles! We can’t leave it to the experts! We can all get better at this. 
  • Welcome, 🌸🗡 Hactivators to a place where you can gather with others and grow your hosting skills in supportive community. 

In this Patreon I'm creating: 

🎥   A series of short videos trainings on:
  • How to host good conversations in small groups. How to support people to listen, discern and empathise.
  • Discover the different kinds of roles you can step into on the way to hosting full blown conversations
  • Ready to host? How to step up and host good conversation yourself. That listening circle or themed conversation  you wanted to launch? It's time(!) and we are here to help you
🗺   Step by Step Guides on how to launch and moderate your own group:

🔦  A Spotlight on different formats: Listening Circles, Check-ins, Letterbox Protocols, Collective Presencing exercises, and how to design your own.

💛    Community Forums to get support from others and 💡share ideas on how to launch your own events.

🌟    Opportunities to try out your skills, through supporting roles in other people's events 

🙋   Q&A (AMA) live sessions on all the most awkward questions about hosting, like:
  • “What if I make it worse?” What if we stumble on difficult topics?” “How to get started if I’ve never done this before?" What is different about now? What's my personal strength
💡 Advanced Techniques for pros:
  • Videos on practical and (even fun!) tools for leaning into conflict
  • A 2019 PDF on 10 the new conflict patterns everyone needs to understand:
🖥 Plus some bleeding edge stuff addressing online conflicts I’m sure no one will deny that this area in particular needs immediate attention! 

My wish is that by engaging with the community here, you grow in confidence to do more of this work. That this helps you to figure out how you can do more of this, in your way, and at a pace and level you wish. 

There is a lot here! But I will work on one thing at a time at any point in time. So it will be digestible. :-)  


Frequently Asked Questions

What is Patreon?
It's a way for a bunch of people to support an independent creator they believe in, by giving them a monthly tip. The structured tiers on the right let you choose what kind of tip. Each tip gets different kinds of rewards.

When you sign up to any of the tiers, you become a patron of my work here. You also get to be part of a community that is learning, growing their skills and supporting each other to host good conversation.

What exactly will you do?

I’ll do all the things I have listed above. All with the aim of helping Humanity Activators grow in confidence, get out there and improve the way we have conversations in the world.

Many people have felt despair about how the country is going. If we can have better conversations, person to person, and learn to do this in small groups, there is little that we cannot take on.

What if I just want to watch from the edges without doing anything?
You can! You can subscribe knowing that through your contribution you are already helping whole bunch of Humanity Activators to do their thing. Plus you get the benefits that come with the tier!

What if I want to get more involved?
You can do so! You can start gently or you can dive right in!

What if I want to downgrade my tier at any point?

You can do so! And you can also pause your contribution if you need to, for a while.

What If I cannot afford any of the tiers?

If you cannot afford any of the tiers, never fear. I put plenty of material out in the world as open source: for anyone to use for free.

What do the tiers give you?
The tiers give you access to a bunch of different things including certain live trainings, 1-1 support and some moderated conversations because there is only so much of that I can do, and I have to pay rent!

What's an example, of a free resource?
How about the Listening Circle templates that I designed? They are downloadable even if you are not a patron. I've created a free guide you can use to step you through running a Listening Circle or a Listening Cafe. I've not made any claims on this whole process. Even the coaster design is downloadable from here for free.

Fun fact! I discovered that a University in Ireland is using the Guide I produced this as part of the syllabus of their Msc in Organsaional Psychology. Students are being tested on their ability to run Listening Circles! I'm just thrilled that this is helping people to make the world safer one conversation at a time.

Why are you doing this now?
In my heart, I have known I need to do this for a long time. In 2018 got involved in helping a huge group to resolve a conflict online and it made me more convinced than ever that I need to do this now.The world is undergoing a massive shift. A core part of what is needed is to improve our collective ability to help people talk to each other constructively.

More people need to step into do this. Too much of it is needed to be left to the experts. We need more Humanity Activators to step into their potential!

Are you able to do this?

Ive been told I was made for this precise moment! (In those exact words!) When the Brexit vote happened, that next week I was approached no less than five times by people I respect hugely to ask me to do something to address increased social tensions.
That spurred me to start the Listening Movement. That in turn made me realise that there is a need for accessible training in how to host better conversations.

How did you get here?
You could say I’ve spent my life preparing for this. Ive trained facilitators, coaches and therapists. I've worked in conflict resolution and peace-building. I've worked with addiction, habit change and learning games. I hold a black belt in aikido - the martial art of peace. I’m qualified to teach it. I've been hosting conversations of all kinds for just under 30 years. I've been told I am very good at teaching it to others. Its what is needed now, on a massive scale!

This patreon gives me the chance to make this happen. And it also give you a chance to get involved and also meet others who care about this as much as you do.

Why Patreon?

Patreon helps me receive contributions from those who are loving what I do and who want to be part of it. It's just a structure through which I can help people and be supported along the way. Everyone wins!

Can anyone really do this?
Everyone can play a role in hosting better conversations! If you want to step up to do so, you are worth gold and this is here to support you.

Not everyone starts at the same place. I am creating material that is accessible from different starting points. So you can jump in at the level that you want to.

🌸🗡Humanity Activators this is a call to you… You are needed! If you don’t believe me.. just look at the state of online conversations. We need to level, up!

Don't despair at the state of the world. Find your niche as a  🌸🗡 Hactivator and get stuck in. The reward will be hope in your heart and the felt sense of the world as a safer place.
Tiers
🦅 Mighty Condor Humanity Activator
$1 or more per month

Access to the Library, Chat and Hactivator Diaries:


  • Access to Behind The Scenes Musings
    Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Humanity Activator . These will cheer you up. The antidote to seeing bad stuff is to see good stuff. I will make sure you get to see the good stuff here.
  • Access to the core library of video training sessions. Many of these will be free but some will be patreon only and you  can see them in one place here
  • Access to community chat (DISCORD), to connect with others 


<3 My Heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to activate Humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it. You are a good human.

🐯Crouching Tiger Humanity Activator
$5 or more per month

All of the above PLUS Access to live community events: 


  • You get to participate in safe spaces - properly moderated events such as Listening Cafes and other formats 
  • These are events where you see good facilitation modelled. You are supported to connect with others in ways that bring out the best in humanity. That is what Humanity Activating is all about. 


<3 You are wonderful and I am eternally grateful to you for supporting me to create this material. I am filled with hope at the idea that people will step up and take part in the kinds of conversations we want to have. I promise to do my best to create a safe space in which people are also free to express their truest self. 

🐬 Nimble Dolphin Humanity Activator
$10 or more per month

All of the above, PLUS You get to train in these methods.


  • Access to a live trainingsessions for all Hactivators - You get to attend the training sessions live where I can answer your questions in the moment. 
  • These are unique moments which we will keep for others to learn from. you get to be there, where it all happens. 


<3 I am so humbled by the fact that you want to take this out into the world. It takes courage and dedication and I salute that in you. I will do my utmost to ensure that you feel supported along the way and garner enough courage to take the steps you need. 

🐤 Caring PsyDuck Humanity Activator
$20 or more per month only 10 left

All of the above, PLUS Personal Mentoring:


  • You will get a monthly 1:1, 30-minute session with me via Skype or zoom.
  • This will enable me to mentor you on your own journey. 


<3 By taking me on, you are helping me to help a lot more people and for this I feel truly blessed. I will be delighted to help you to grow in your journey and bring to fruition your own ideas as a PsyDuck Hactivator. 

🐼 Samurai Panda Humanity Activator
$50 or more per month only 3 left

All of the above, PLUS Personal Coaching:


  • You just got yourself a coach! I will help you to develop your own approach 
  • Help with a difficult conflict. Unlimited email contact plus two 45 minute sessions 


<3 Well, we are going ot go places! I shall make sure of it! I love to put myself behind someone and give them all my support to help them move forward.

🦄 Unifying Unicorn Humanity Activator
$100 or more per month only 2 left

All of the above PLUS my dedication to help your team


  • You are a company I will run a session for a team you are involved with. I can help you in our work at a personal, professional or community level. 
  • OR you are some kind of Guardian Angel who wants to help good stuff.  You will have a special place in Unicorn Heaven.
Goals
2 of 10 patrons
When 10 Hactivators join, I will upload the first video How-to video to the library on a topic of their choice. 
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Welcome,  🌸🗡Hactivators! Activating our humanity through good conversation!

If 🐼 you've landed on this page, you probably care about the fact that groups are falling apart in toxic arguments more so than before. You suspect that we can do better! 

You 🐼  are a facilitator, space-holder, mediator, community or forum leader, teacher, healer, map maker or similar. It's been your role to host conversations. But because of the changing times, and more conflict surfacing, you are sensing the need to level up!

Or  🐼 you suspect you could do this, have never tried, are curious and want to discover more!

Either way, 🐼 you are in the right place! 

  • Good conversation brings out the best in people. It activates our humanity. 
  • A lot more people need to step into these roles! We can’t leave it to the experts! We can all get better at this. 
  • Welcome, 🌸🗡 Hactivators to a place where you can gather with others and grow your hosting skills in supportive community. 

In this Patreon I'm creating: 

🎥   A series of short videos trainings on:
  • How to host good conversations in small groups. How to support people to listen, discern and empathise.
  • Discover the different kinds of roles you can step into on the way to hosting full blown conversations
  • Ready to host? How to step up and host good conversation yourself. That listening circle or themed conversation  you wanted to launch? It's time(!) and we are here to help you
🗺   Step by Step Guides on how to launch and moderate your own group:

🔦  A Spotlight on different formats: Listening Circles, Check-ins, Letterbox Protocols, Collective Presencing exercises, and how to design your own.

💛    Community Forums to get support from others and 💡share ideas on how to launch your own events.

🌟    Opportunities to try out your skills, through supporting roles in other people's events 

🙋   Q&A (AMA) live sessions on all the most awkward questions about hosting, like:
  • “What if I make it worse?” What if we stumble on difficult topics?” “How to get started if I’ve never done this before?" What is different about now? What's my personal strength
💡 Advanced Techniques for pros:
  • Videos on practical and (even fun!) tools for leaning into conflict
  • A 2019 PDF on 10 the new conflict patterns everyone needs to understand:
🖥 Plus some bleeding edge stuff addressing online conflicts I’m sure no one will deny that this area in particular needs immediate attention! 

My wish is that by engaging with the community here, you grow in confidence to do more of this work. That this helps you to figure out how you can do more of this, in your way, and at a pace and level you wish. 

There is a lot here! But I will work on one thing at a time at any point in time. So it will be digestible. :-)  


Frequently Asked Questions

What is Patreon?
It's a way for a bunch of people to support an independent creator they believe in, by giving them a monthly tip. The structured tiers on the right let you choose what kind of tip. Each tip gets different kinds of rewards.

When you sign up to any of the tiers, you become a patron of my work here. You also get to be part of a community that is learning, growing their skills and supporting each other to host good conversation.

What exactly will you do?

I’ll do all the things I have listed above. All with the aim of helping Humanity Activators grow in confidence, get out there and improve the way we have conversations in the world.

Many people have felt despair about how the country is going. If we can have better conversations, person to person, and learn to do this in small groups, there is little that we cannot take on.

What if I just want to watch from the edges without doing anything?
You can! You can subscribe knowing that through your contribution you are already helping whole bunch of Humanity Activators to do their thing. Plus you get the benefits that come with the tier!

What if I want to get more involved?
You can do so! You can start gently or you can dive right in!

What if I want to downgrade my tier at any point?

You can do so! And you can also pause your contribution if you need to, for a while.

What If I cannot afford any of the tiers?

If you cannot afford any of the tiers, never fear. I put plenty of material out in the world as open source: for anyone to use for free.

What do the tiers give you?
The tiers give you access to a bunch of different things including certain live trainings, 1-1 support and some moderated conversations because there is only so much of that I can do, and I have to pay rent!

What's an example, of a free resource?
How about the Listening Circle templates that I designed? They are downloadable even if you are not a patron. I've created a free guide you can use to step you through running a Listening Circle or a Listening Cafe. I've not made any claims on this whole process. Even the coaster design is downloadable from here for free.

Fun fact! I discovered that a University in Ireland is using the Guide I produced this as part of the syllabus of their Msc in Organsaional Psychology. Students are being tested on their ability to run Listening Circles! I'm just thrilled that this is helping people to make the world safer one conversation at a time.

Why are you doing this now?
In my heart, I have known I need to do this for a long time. In 2018 got involved in helping a huge group to resolve a conflict online and it made me more convinced than ever that I need to do this now.The world is undergoing a massive shift. A core part of what is needed is to improve our collective ability to help people talk to each other constructively.

More people need to step into do this. Too much of it is needed to be left to the experts. We need more Humanity Activators to step into their potential!

Are you able to do this?

Ive been told I was made for this precise moment! (In those exact words!) When the Brexit vote happened, that next week I was approached no less than five times by people I respect hugely to ask me to do something to address increased social tensions.
That spurred me to start the Listening Movement. That in turn made me realise that there is a need for accessible training in how to host better conversations.

How did you get here?
You could say I’ve spent my life preparing for this. Ive trained facilitators, coaches and therapists. I've worked in conflict resolution and peace-building. I've worked with addiction, habit change and learning games. I hold a black belt in aikido - the martial art of peace. I’m qualified to teach it. I've been hosting conversations of all kinds for just under 30 years. I've been told I am very good at teaching it to others. Its what is needed now, on a massive scale!

This patreon gives me the chance to make this happen. And it also give you a chance to get involved and also meet others who care about this as much as you do.

Why Patreon?

Patreon helps me receive contributions from those who are loving what I do and who want to be part of it. It's just a structure through which I can help people and be supported along the way. Everyone wins!

Can anyone really do this?
Everyone can play a role in hosting better conversations! If you want to step up to do so, you are worth gold and this is here to support you.

Not everyone starts at the same place. I am creating material that is accessible from different starting points. So you can jump in at the level that you want to.

🌸🗡Humanity Activators this is a call to you… You are needed! If you don’t believe me.. just look at the state of online conversations. We need to level, up!

Don't despair at the state of the world. Find your niche as a  🌸🗡 Hactivator and get stuck in. The reward will be hope in your heart and the felt sense of the world as a safer place.

Recent posts by Sofia Bustamante

Tiers
🦅 Mighty Condor Humanity Activator
$1 or more per month

Access to the Library, Chat and Hactivator Diaries:


  • Access to Behind The Scenes Musings
    Little Epic Adventures in the life of a Humanity Activator . These will cheer you up. The antidote to seeing bad stuff is to see good stuff. I will make sure you get to see the good stuff here.
  • Access to the core library of video training sessions. Many of these will be free but some will be patreon only and you  can see them in one place here
  • Access to community chat (DISCORD), to connect with others 


<3 My Heartfelt thanks for helping. It means so much to me that you want to activate Humanity everywhere and support others who are enabling it. You are a good human.

🐯Crouching Tiger Humanity Activator
$5 or more per month

All of the above PLUS Access to live community events: 


  • You get to participate in safe spaces - properly moderated events such as Listening Cafes and other formats 
  • These are events where you see good facilitation modelled. You are supported to connect with others in ways that bring out the best in humanity. That is what Humanity Activating is all about. 


<3 You are wonderful and I am eternally grateful to you for supporting me to create this material. I am filled with hope at the idea that people will step up and take part in the kinds of conversations we want to have. I promise to do my best to create a safe space in which people are also free to express their truest self. 

🐬 Nimble Dolphin Humanity Activator
$10 or more per month

All of the above, PLUS You get to train in these methods.


  • Access to a live trainingsessions for all Hactivators - You get to attend the training sessions live where I can answer your questions in the moment. 
  • These are unique moments which we will keep for others to learn from. you get to be there, where it all happens. 


<3 I am so humbled by the fact that you want to take this out into the world. It takes courage and dedication and I salute that in you. I will do my utmost to ensure that you feel supported along the way and garner enough courage to take the steps you need. 

🐤 Caring PsyDuck Humanity Activator
$20 or more per month only 10 left

All of the above, PLUS Personal Mentoring:


  • You will get a monthly 1:1, 30-minute session with me via Skype or zoom.
  • This will enable me to mentor you on your own journey. 


<3 By taking me on, you are helping me to help a lot more people and for this I feel truly blessed. I will be delighted to help you to grow in your journey and bring to fruition your own ideas as a PsyDuck Hactivator. 

🐼 Samurai Panda Humanity Activator
$50 or more per month only 3 left

All of the above, PLUS Personal Coaching:


  • You just got yourself a coach! I will help you to develop your own approach 
  • Help with a difficult conflict. Unlimited email contact plus two 45 minute sessions 


<3 Well, we are going ot go places! I shall make sure of it! I love to put myself behind someone and give them all my support to help them move forward.

🦄 Unifying Unicorn Humanity Activator
$100 or more per month only 2 left

All of the above PLUS my dedication to help your team


  • You are a company I will run a session for a team you are involved with. I can help you in our work at a personal, professional or community level. 
  • OR you are some kind of Guardian Angel who wants to help good stuff.  You will have a special place in Unicorn Heaven.