Submissive Guide

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  • A monthly "love letter" from me, sharing what's been going on behind the scenes of Submissive Guide.
  • Patron role on the Submissive Guide Discord Server.
  • Plus you'll have access to my Patreon-only Activity Feed. 
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  • Early access to new YouTube videos, ebooks and freebies coming to the site!
  • Access to the Resource Library  where I keep the early access free ebooks, worksheets, printables and more! 
  • NEW! Eligible to submit entries to win sweet prizes in contests and giveaways hosted by Submissive Guide, right here on Patreon.
  •  A discount code for 25% off your first month when you become a member of Kink Academy!  
  • Advanced notice on what posts are going up on the site each month.
  • Plus, all the rewards from lower tiers.
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Hi, I'm lunaKM and since 2009 I've written about BDSM and D/s relationships on a blog called Submissive Guide. I have a passion for helping novice submissives find their personal path to submission and connecting intimately with those voices everyone hears; self-doubt, nervousness, uncertainty, caution. I write to bring common sense back to the world of kink. I write to give your new lifestyle or sexual preferences a voice. 

From Online, Long-Distance and Casual to Real-Life, Full-time Submission and Finally Slavery

I've been through it all and can give a submissive valid insight on all facets of exploration. I started as an online submissive, lived a long-distance (across oceans) service relationship and even played casually for a while as a bottom. I moved to live-in submission where we tried part-time, just in the bedroom and finally settled on full-time D/s dynamic for many years. Now I’m a 24/7 slave and fully immersed in the M/s lifestyle.

What My "Work Day" Looks Like

Every day I spend writing posts for the site, developing readers' guides, and responding to your emails. What time I have left I read books for review, research topics for more articles, participate on FetLife in groups where novice submissives tend to gather and nurture connections on social networks like Twitter and Tumblr. It isn't a full-time job; it's a lifetime's passion.

I don't hold regular hours, I don't get paid a regular wage. But I labor hard to make sure that the questions you have get answers. Submission isn't a one-size-fits-all t-shirt. It's a unique and individual way to live. I strive to help all of you learn what that looks like and then how to join what information that is available online and in books so that it works for you.

How You Can Make a Difference

When you become my patron I will use your monthly pledge to develop more free e-guides and resources, blog content and more frequent video posts. I've also begun the planning stages for a physical book, a podcast and an Education Center for community and further personal development. Part of your support will go towards making sure the site runs at peak performance, pay for new graphics and develop a better site. What's left will help me pay my day to day expenses and perhaps I can draw a wage from my passion.

If you've ever wanted to support Submissive Guide and asked yourself, "how else can I show that this community deserves a hand up", then becoming my patron is the answer for you.


Do I have to pay in US Dollars? NO - Pay in any currency! As this is US based website, everything is written in Dollars, but you can use any currency and it will be automatically converted.

How much content will I get? I release more than 4 posts a week, as well as a few newsletters and video posts every month on the website. For additional Patron-only content, check your pledge level!

Can I stop donating in the future? As soon as you don't find the content valuable enough, go ahead and cancel your donation.

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