The Pillow Talk Project

is creating safe spaces for men-and those who love them-to be vulnerable

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Everywhere around us men are buckling under the pressures of toxic masculinity, and there are dangerous consequences.


According to  a recent study, men who adhere to traditional masculine norms are more likely to struggle with social functioning and mental health issues. And they are less likely to seek help.

The cost: increased violence against others and themselves. Men are  4 times more likely to successfully commit suicide than women, 90% of which are related to mental illness. And as they struggle silently, we all feel the consequences, especially the bodies of difference (women, minorities, and the LGBTQIA+ community.

The proof:  2016 was one of the deadliest years for the LGBTQIA+ community due to hate crimesPolice brutality and frequent violence against black and brown bodies, youth included, has become even more alarming. 1 in 3 (35%) women worldwide have experienced some form of physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime. And there’s so much more.

But hope and help can be found in an unlikely bedfellow, pun intended.


With 250+ blog posts and interviews,  The Pillow Talk Project (TPTP) is a blog and quickly building social movement sharing the vulnerable stories of men--and those who love them--from all over the country in an effort to rethink masculinity and level the playing field for men and their emotions.

It's a really bold statement, but I believe we can help lower male suicide rates, violence, and the number of men--and those who love them--who suffer with depression and related mental health issues by attacking the root cause of not only the hateful -isms plaguing us, but the reason men are buckling in the first place: toxic, dangerous, and archaic traditional notions of masculinity that require domination, oppression, and violence to feel whole.

Instead, through fearless examples and stories of men redefining masculinity on their own terms, we can usher in progressive masculinities rooted in fearless empathy, intimacy, and radical acceptance. And in order to do that we need the power of everyday intimate conversations. 

We need a fundamental shift in how we see men and how men see themselves. We are hurting. But no one’s talking. And it’s not because we don’t want to. We aren’t allowed to. To change this and heal our nation, it’s time to reclaim the kitchen counters, living rooms, patios, and bedrooms, and birth a revolution of intimacy creating safe(r) places for heartfelt conversations and healing between men and those who love them. Only then can we make progress. The kind that positively affects us now and generations of men to come.

With your help, we can create more stories, campaigns, and events that heal men--and those who love them--sparking a national movement centered around redefining masculinity and rediscovering the power of healing conversations. 


The Cost of Building a National Movement

Our initial goal is 5,000 patrons. With these funds, in addition to proceeds from expected store income when it roles out, The Pillow Talk Project will be able to support a national movement  where each year:

  • 1,000+ lives changed. With 30+ Pillow Talkers being trained in our arts-based, culturally responsive FEEL (Fearless Empathy and Experiential Learning) curriculum, they will be able to host over 100 events around the country, touching the lives of over 1,000 people in the 3-month Pillow Talk Event Series focused on healing through trauma using creative writing, performance, and art-making.
  • 250+ fearless articles and interviews published shared in multimedia formats, including research, community features, and the Pillow Talk podcast sharing best practices and resources developed with nonprofit organizations, cultural workers, influencers, celebrity experts in trauma work, sexuality, psychology, men's/women's/queer studies, gender theory, sociology, etc.
  • 5 national marketing campaigns launched by a Think Tank comprised of leading marketers, writers, designers, photographers, and videographers behind an issues r spread awareness and spark critical discussions around beauty, masculinity, male desire, manhood and everything in between.
In addition to these larger costs are everyday operational costs for producing the major goals of The Pillow Talk Project, which includes but isn't limited to: hosting & ongoing website development, mailchimp and other marketing and communications expenses, and adequate compensation for freelance contributors, teaching artists, and Pillow Talk staff who keep things running smoothly.  

The hope is that as The Pillow Talk Project grows, so does the fearless supporters of this movement through their dedication, talent, brilliance, and love because we can't do it without you :-) 

Tiers
First Crush
$1 or more per month
Note: Like in grade school, you're officially the cutest person in the room, which puts you on our radar. 
  • Our many thanks
  • Access to patron-only content updates
Boothang
$20 or more per month
Note: It's more than just crush status. You've invaded our everyday thoughts and the heart is officially skipping a beat. 
  • Our many, many, many thanks
  • You're officially included on our campaign page as a funder under your tier name for all the world to see
  • Plus all previous rewards
Soulmate
$50 or more per month
Note: Issshhh just got real. We're so moved beyond words that we can't see being on this earth without you, officially making you our ride-or-die. Get ready for proof of our loyalty. 
  • Our many, many, many, many thanks
  • Exclusive sneak peek of campaign teasers (1st one available in January)
  • See your name in the credits of our campaign videos
  • Receive goodies from time to time, like t-shirts, posters, and other ways to show our love and commitment to you (first gifts shipped in January)
  • Plus all previous rewards
Goals
0 of 5000 patrons
Whatever you are willing and able to donate to The Pillow Talk Project on Patreon will go a long way toward helping us do the work we do. But reaching a goal of 5,000 patrons will guarantee our ability to make a national impact where each year:
  • 1,000+ lives are changed through Pillow Talkers hosting over 100 events around the country
  • 250+ fearless articles and interviews are published in multimedia formats, including research, community features, and best practices by national experts
  • 5 national marketing campaigns are launched spreading awareness and sparking critical discussions and action around beauty, masculinity, male desire, manhood and everything in between.
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Everywhere around us men are buckling under the pressures of toxic masculinity, and there are dangerous consequences.


According to  a recent study, men who adhere to traditional masculine norms are more likely to struggle with social functioning and mental health issues. And they are less likely to seek help.

The cost: increased violence against others and themselves. Men are  4 times more likely to successfully commit suicide than women, 90% of which are related to mental illness. And as they struggle silently, we all feel the consequences, especially the bodies of difference (women, minorities, and the LGBTQIA+ community.

The proof:  2016 was one of the deadliest years for the LGBTQIA+ community due to hate crimesPolice brutality and frequent violence against black and brown bodies, youth included, has become even more alarming. 1 in 3 (35%) women worldwide have experienced some form of physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime. And there’s so much more.

But hope and help can be found in an unlikely bedfellow, pun intended.


With 250+ blog posts and interviews,  The Pillow Talk Project (TPTP) is a blog and quickly building social movement sharing the vulnerable stories of men--and those who love them--from all over the country in an effort to rethink masculinity and level the playing field for men and their emotions.

It's a really bold statement, but I believe we can help lower male suicide rates, violence, and the number of men--and those who love them--who suffer with depression and related mental health issues by attacking the root cause of not only the hateful -isms plaguing us, but the reason men are buckling in the first place: toxic, dangerous, and archaic traditional notions of masculinity that require domination, oppression, and violence to feel whole.

Instead, through fearless examples and stories of men redefining masculinity on their own terms, we can usher in progressive masculinities rooted in fearless empathy, intimacy, and radical acceptance. And in order to do that we need the power of everyday intimate conversations. 

We need a fundamental shift in how we see men and how men see themselves. We are hurting. But no one’s talking. And it’s not because we don’t want to. We aren’t allowed to. To change this and heal our nation, it’s time to reclaim the kitchen counters, living rooms, patios, and bedrooms, and birth a revolution of intimacy creating safe(r) places for heartfelt conversations and healing between men and those who love them. Only then can we make progress. The kind that positively affects us now and generations of men to come.

With your help, we can create more stories, campaigns, and events that heal men--and those who love them--sparking a national movement centered around redefining masculinity and rediscovering the power of healing conversations. 


The Cost of Building a National Movement

Our initial goal is 5,000 patrons. With these funds, in addition to proceeds from expected store income when it roles out, The Pillow Talk Project will be able to support a national movement  where each year:

  • 1,000+ lives changed. With 30+ Pillow Talkers being trained in our arts-based, culturally responsive FEEL (Fearless Empathy and Experiential Learning) curriculum, they will be able to host over 100 events around the country, touching the lives of over 1,000 people in the 3-month Pillow Talk Event Series focused on healing through trauma using creative writing, performance, and art-making.
  • 250+ fearless articles and interviews published shared in multimedia formats, including research, community features, and the Pillow Talk podcast sharing best practices and resources developed with nonprofit organizations, cultural workers, influencers, celebrity experts in trauma work, sexuality, psychology, men's/women's/queer studies, gender theory, sociology, etc.
  • 5 national marketing campaigns launched by a Think Tank comprised of leading marketers, writers, designers, photographers, and videographers behind an issues r spread awareness and spark critical discussions around beauty, masculinity, male desire, manhood and everything in between.
In addition to these larger costs are everyday operational costs for producing the major goals of The Pillow Talk Project, which includes but isn't limited to: hosting & ongoing website development, mailchimp and other marketing and communications expenses, and adequate compensation for freelance contributors, teaching artists, and Pillow Talk staff who keep things running smoothly.  

The hope is that as The Pillow Talk Project grows, so does the fearless supporters of this movement through their dedication, talent, brilliance, and love because we can't do it without you :-) 

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Tiers
First Crush
$1 or more per month
Note: Like in grade school, you're officially the cutest person in the room, which puts you on our radar. 
  • Our many thanks
  • Access to patron-only content updates
Boothang
$20 or more per month
Note: It's more than just crush status. You've invaded our everyday thoughts and the heart is officially skipping a beat. 
  • Our many, many, many thanks
  • You're officially included on our campaign page as a funder under your tier name for all the world to see
  • Plus all previous rewards
Soulmate
$50 or more per month
Note: Issshhh just got real. We're so moved beyond words that we can't see being on this earth without you, officially making you our ride-or-die. Get ready for proof of our loyalty. 
  • Our many, many, many, many thanks
  • Exclusive sneak peek of campaign teasers (1st one available in January)
  • See your name in the credits of our campaign videos
  • Receive goodies from time to time, like t-shirts, posters, and other ways to show our love and commitment to you (first gifts shipped in January)
  • Plus all previous rewards