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(Stay tuned for a Patreon video where we'll talk about our site, our story, and our goals for the future of dating. For now, read on!)

Having a Patreon helps us:
  • Keep VR dating free and accessible for everyone.
  • Make a “non-evil” dating site/app (one that doesn’t try to squeeze money and data out of you).
  • Cover our costs of running VRLFP: contrary to popular belief, our servers are not hosted on toasters.
  • Improve features (through hiring developers, commissioning design, and affording better servers/databases).
  • Shape the future of love together <3

Our story

We (kfarwell, existony, and the team) have spent thousands of hours in VR (mostly VRChat).
We've fallen in love, like, and ERP with people from all over the world. We've made some of our closest friends in VR, and met up with VR friends and partners IRL, too. Now, we want to make VR dating & friendship easier for everyone.

We think making a VR dating site the right way means:

  • Letting VR shine: VR enables immediate, safe, and unique dates across any distance. Unlike most dating apps, VR emphasizes personality & vibes over looks.
  • Open source. VRLFP’s code is public, which keeps us more secure and accountable to our users. This also allows the community to participate in directly in development.
  • No tracking and no ads. No one should have the right to invade your privacy or sell your data.
  • No chat-bots or fake profiles, which a lot of dating sites use apparently (!).
  • Free premium features, like seeing who ‘likes’ you. Love shouldn’t be trapped behind a paywall. 

Fixing the Online Dating business model

Why do dating apps and sites suck so much? We think it has something to do with the business model. When dating apps monetize aggressively, they are incentivized to keep you swiping, without success.

Most dating apps have a business model of premium subscriptions, boosts, and ads. Combined, these factors mean that most dating apps waste your time (the longer you spend, the more ad revenue you make them), violate your data and privacy (every other major dating app tracks you and many will sell your messages and profiles to third parties), and are designed to make you more desperate (the more you swipe without success, the more you despair, and the more willing you are to buy premium or boosts).

Keeping VRLFP free and patron-supported lets us put the user first — serving you over anyone else. Not corporate profits, not advertisers, not VCs.

(Of course, keeping this project free and open-source means we have limited resources--which is why we need your support to grow and improve the site!)

Why we believe in VR dating

You can be more authentic: VR lets you understand someone as a person beyond just their looks. You can get to know each other, personality and vibe first, then trade IRL facts/pictures/details if you want. VR lets you better see into someone’s personality (even their soul) free of judgement.

You can meet people from everywhere: VR frees you from seeing the same faces over and over again from your city, small town, or school. You meet anyone from all over the world, and share space across any distance. This includes people with niche interests like yours, or from minority groups too! For example, VRChat has a huge LGBTQ+ community.

You can meet up easily in VR: VR lets you skip the awkward messaging and meet up in a Social VR app/game right away. Unlike video calls or phone calls, you can feel someone’s presence in VR: you can read their body language in three immersive dimensions, hear their voice with spatial audio, even exchange a hug with phantom touch. This lets you test chemistry faster!

Free and awesome dates. Once you have a VR headset, you can grab a coffee, visit an amusement park, or go to the moon without leaving your home (and without spending a dime).

Dating shouldn’t make you a more frustrated, lonely, insecure, or worse person. The act of dating, and love, should make you more human: more open-minded, more trusting, and more loving. We think VR dating will help make that happen. Help us make that a reality <3

Want to help in other ways? You can do that by:
  • Spreading the word: telling your friends, fav VR Discord servers and Reddit communities, and community leaders about VRLFP.
  • Referring a friend to VRLFP.
  • Partnering with us: we’re still working out the details, but if you’re a VR content creator, community leader, game dev, or artist interested in cross-promo, DM @existony#0001 on Discord.
  • Become a mod: Join our Discord, participate and get a vibe, then DM @existony#0001.

Join us!

We host weekly events on our Discord and channels where you can talk and get to know other VR users. Most of our users use VRChat, but people from all Social VR apps and multiplayer games are welcome!

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